Blog Post #4 Answer

The movie I chose to watch is ” Nappily Ever After”. This movie relates to women’s studies because it is a movie about a woman named Violet who goes on a self discovery journey and learns how not to be perfect all the time, how not to rely solely on her man for her happiness and future , and how to develop self confidence. This movie is about Violet, the main character, who is a professional perfectionist especially with her hair. She is at the top of her game at work, she is in a romantic relationship with a doctor, and is ready for the next step. She wants to be married and have kids, but when a mishap occurs at a salon and causes her hair to fall out, things start to go downhill. Also this is the wake up call of her self journey. Violet expects her fiancee to propose but he doesn’t and she confronts him about it. He complains that he doesn’t really know her that well, and tells her that her perfectionism is holding her back from showing her true self. Violet decides to break up with him. She tries to fix her hair by trying different styles and she begins to do stuff she normally wouldn’t do. At this point she is going through an identity crisis and struggles how to solve everything. But the straw that broke the camel’s back was when she decides to see her ex-boyfriend at his job. When she arrives she sees that he has already moved on with one of his co-workers. When she arrives home, she begins to break down and starts throwing his stuff away. She goes in the bathroom and when she sees herself and her hair in the mirror she starts crying . After she spots a razor and decides to shave off her hair. This step shows her emotional growth and that change is needed in order to learn. A stranger sees her bald head and tells her to own it. Violet takes her advice and starts walking without her head scarf in public. You can see that she is building confidence in herself and realizes she doesn’t have to be perfect all of the time. She stands up to her boss and gets what she wants . With this newly acquired self confidence Violet puts her new life lessons into practice by helping a girl who is being raised by her dad and who is unsure of herself and has low self esteem. Violet helps the girl to learn how to love herself and not let anyone affect her negatively. She then forms a romantic relationship with the girl’s dad and in the relationship she truly shows who she is. However towards the end she reunites with her ex and he finally proposes to her. At the reception Violet escapes the crowd and sits by herself. Her family and fiancee find her and ask whats wrong. She explains that she is sad because she doesn’t have the guts to be who she is. She tells her mom about a memory when she and her mom were at a pool and her mom told her not to go in the pool because her hair would frizz. Violet didn’t listen and jumped in but when she resurfaced the kids laughed at her hair. Her mom yanked her out of the pool, put her in the car and drove off. Violet wonders who she would be if her mom would have praised her for being herself and told her that she was still beautiful. There is a pool at the reception and Violet goes and jumps in it. The crowds applauds her jump and Violet invites everyone to jump in. Happily, everyone jumps in. This movie teaches viewers to know their worth and be wary of the monster called perfectionism because it can consume you. You need to love your self and show your true colors. If you are authentic then the world will be authentic to you in return. Also you can’t plan everything on your terms, nothing is guaranteed in real life you have to do what you can do and have faith.